The marriage coach can greatly improve the relationship by helping couples discover or rediscover why they ended together in the first place. Other marriage help might include finding out what makes defines love to each. How might each communicate love in their own mind.
See many marital problems are because of or connected to communication issues and different values. Except when the direct cause is money and even then effective communication (or lack there of) plays a role.
This is not good enough.
Once there is communication problems it causes many other problems like lack of truck, anxiety, resentment, general unhappiness and worst. A marriage coach might be all it takes to start getting things back on track.
Talking to a marriage coach that does not know either person prior to the meeting is helpful in itself. You are more at ease to talk and accept feedback. Plus, often the communication between couples has all but stopped when one is withdrawn because his/her needs in the relationship is not being meet.
Meanwhile there are times that the other person has no clue what must be done to meet the needs. As we said communication is a problem. So while one person says this and this is the problem. Those things may be the symptoms of the problem not the principles which actually make up the problem.
So correcting those 2 things only solves those 2 things, the underlying problem is style there and expresses itself in other ways .
This happens over and over and the other person basically feels violated, disrespected, misunderstood, betrayed, etc. Meanwhile the spouse is also loss of words feeling, “No matter what I do, it seems to be a problem, I don't know why we are together. It seems I am not loved or respected. I wonder if something else is going on.....”
That is just one scenario where you can clearly see that a person on the outside can see through. By seeing this the marriage coach can work on helping the couple gain clarity in order to see what is going on too.
Today marriage can get tricky for couples. There is a lot of distractions and outside influence. Be careful not to let the noise from society or even well meaning friends be the cause to end the marriage early. Get real help early and take your time before giving up.
The marriage coach will ask you about your situation and ask you what is it you wish to gain from the session. (Or a similar series of questions) They are there to help you with your specific situation.
Here are some of the marriage issues that couple sometimes need coaching in...
The list can go on and on and on but you probably already see sever issues that you have had in a relationship or in this marriage. Here is a secret.....with the right two people... you could coach yourselves to fix your marriage.
There is enough marriage help material out there. Just address any of the issues that you have. Become aware of the problems that show up in marriages and why. With an open mind and desire for self improvement these issues could be resolved.
The problem is, often both people aren't willing to do this. Someone is likely to think the problem is not with them and they don't need to change. They don't know how to look at the issue from another point of view so they are stuff with that mindset until something different happens.
See if you can bring in a book or CD about emotional needs of men and women. Dr. Laura Schlesinger which many people don't like because of a media attack using her words out of context to make the public believe she was a racist, has great books that I think could help couples a lot.
If your spouse sees any material that you yourself are indulging in materials about being a better mate to him/her, that could eventually help you get him/her also interested and you might turn things around.
Of course, like I always say though, if you want the quickest way to learn how to turn things around, it will be talking to someone who does this as a passion. Marriage Coaching might well be your shortcut to marriage blitz once again.